Personally, I think that’s kind of awesome.

Q: With Barack Obama in office – whom you enthusiastically supported – will we see more minorities and women in top posts in business?

A: If women and minorities work hard to prepare tehmselves, they will clearly be considered.  In the early days of my career, I’d say, “I’d rather play tennis than golf.”  But it was a golfing culture, so why wouldn’t I learn to play golf?  To the extent that they’re willing to embrace the cultural idiosyncrasies of the business, minorities and women have every bit as much opportunity to succeed as their white male counterparts.

I like that answer.

Another complaint: there’s nothing to do.  I’ll paraphrase from the WRUW show Maximum Consumption yesterday: “If you think there’s nothing to do, you’re not in Cleveland.”  As much as I like Cool Cleveland, it only scratches the surface of what is available to do here (I know – I’ve submitted awesome events to them and have been 100% ignored).  I personally love live shows, but I can’t keep up with the Beachland Ballroom, the Grog Shop and the Agora; I can’t even begin to name all of the other live music venues here (if someone can, I’d be impressed).  There are plenty of seasonal activities, museums, playhouses (from Playhouse Square to the Liminis – again, too many to keep track of), house parties, yacht clubs, block parties…it’s absurd how much there is to do!  I just don’t understand people sometimes.  If I was a psychologist, I’d look into conscious blindness.

Politicians are often blamed for the budget decisions made.  They, of course, are elected to make the tough decisions for us – their bargain in exchange for fame and power is that they will be damned for what they do and damned for what they don’t do.  Elected democracy effectively allows voters an “out” for the bad decisions that must be made; it allows us the opportunity to not be responsible for what must happen.  People protest over library budget cuts, but what if Strickland had instead chosen to cut school funding?  What if roads were left to decay, or child and family services shut up shop and parents had to be trusted to pay alimony?

I would like to see, on ballots, funding priorities listed for people to take a non-binding straw poll on to determine voter preferences.  Better yet, voters should be asked, “which of these state programs should have their budgets cut in order to balance the state budget?”  This would ensure that more single-issue voters would participate, would give politicians guidance in making budget cut decisions (and cover if and when they are attacked for these decisions), and force people to understand the difficulties inherent in the budget governmental budgeting system.  Perhaps these two questions could be combined: people could vote on five things to keep steady or increase and five things to cut.  This would, at the very least, give people an opportunity to be involved, and increase the understanding that sometimes, in running a household, a business or the state, difficult fiscal decisions must be made, not everyone will like the results, but that sometimes we just have to make do with what life – or the voters in a democracy – throws at us.

Second, I’m coming around to the opinion that Cleveland has two options for dealing with sprawl: collapse the suburbs and aim to concentrate the residents into the Downtown area (a la Youngstown) or have each suburb become a miniature city, complete with Downtowns, shopping districts and concentrated residential areas.  The way things are now – for example, the long areas of Mayfield’s residential/commercial areas – are not sustainable and cannot be permanently successful – or as successful as Cleveland needs – as they’re set up now.  Spreading people out is not the path to economic vibrancy: concentrating them, having people live close to each other and interact with each other, is the way to go.  Look at Little Italy, for example, or Coventry: places where businesses and residential areas smash into each other and are successful.  For contrast, look at the areas just outside of downtown.

I really need to get through The Death and Life of Great American Cities.

1. A lottery was held for 20,000 tickets;
2. The city is probably going to spend $4M on the funeral.

I find this objectionable.  First, Jackson did die owing a significant amount of money, but he also had far more significant assets.  The city should not be expected to foot the bill for this.  Second, the $4M could be spent on teachers, police officers or infrastructure; a celebrity funeral should not be their top priority.  Third, the tickets were given away, and then the city asked for donations.  Why were the tickets not sold?  It’s a tribute; I’m sure that people would have paid for the privilege of seeing some of music’s greats pay tribute to MJ.  All of this strikes me as bad government.

Even though it’s competitive, and someone is “it,” kids need to play tag. They need to learn how to lose. They need to learn how to be nice even with competition.

Doritos do not a dinner make.  (Somewhere, I just blew someone’s mind.)

Kids shouldn’t be watching four hours of television a day. If you feel that you can’t stop them, put a brick through your television. They made it hundreds of thousands of years without Friends reruns; they can make it until they’re 18. Don’t worry – they will go outside to play, they will run around in circles, they’ll dig for treasure – heck, they might even find a book to read and then sit down and read it.

Kids don’t need detailed or expensive toys. Get them things that will challenge their imagination. Again, sticks are great. Rocks are fascinating. Marbles, balls, blocks, odd pieces of wood, string, etc. can make a summer.

They don’t need junk food. Fruit is great.

Dirt. It doesn’t hurt. In fact, it helps build immune systems. Protecting kids from dirt and bacteria isn’t doing them any favors. Heck – constant application of antibacterial lotions or soaps isn’t doing the parents any favors, either.

More later. I’m just sick and tired of seeing kids in the backs of SUVs staring at monitors in headrests, eating chips and drinking pop and sitting down inside, then parents worrying about diagnoses of ADD, ADHD or obesity.

I wonder how much people would appreciate this city if they began to think of it through a camera lens. What if we all began looking for beautiful things to take pictures of? What if, say, we looked at the planter in front of the Sunoco near Cedar/Fairmount and tried to emphasize the interesting way the wood is staggered in a pictrue? What about the way the buildings downtown line up with each other, or the paint jobs – or even peeling paint – in the suburbs?

I wrote that sentence and immediately thought of a passage in Robert Cialdini’s book Influence where he describes a World War II veteran who voluntarily stops speaking.  The veteran is placed in a care ward and refuses to speak for 30 years.  Then, he happens to hear a radio broadcasting a soccer game between his hometown team and their historical rival.  At one point, he leaps up and screams, “You dumb ass!  Are you trying to give them the match?”  He then sits down and never speaks again.

This veteran was so heavily invested in his local sports team that he broke his self-imposed silence to shout at a deaf radio.  The lesson: sports are intensely personal.  Isaac Asimov wrote, “What you want to prove is that you are better than the other person.  Whomever you root for represents you; and when he wins, you win.”  Cialdini believes that we bask in the reflected glory of victory, but when our sports teams fail, we begin to distance ourselves from them.  This is reflected in our speech patterns: when our team wins, WE win, but when our team loses, THEY lose.  We use words indicating that our sports teams bring victory to us all, but that the losers aren’t us – the losers are separate. Thus, when I wrote that first sentence, I mentally implied that the Cavs, as losers, are separate from the fans and citizens of Cleveland.  Similarly, if they’d won, and beat the Lakers, I would be celebrating our victory.

Is it possible that in this loss is the opportunity for greater growth?  I think so. Cialdini believes that one of the things we do in basking in reflected glory is avoid looking at our own failures.  We now have the opportunity to face defeat and move forward, both as a team, as fans and as a city.  At each level, we can now ask ourselves good questions.  What is wrong here that we can fix?  What can we work on?  What can each of us contribute to the greater good?  That’s where teamwork comes in, and community spirit, and growth, and betterment.  The Cavs can build on this, and move forward; they can watch the tapes, blunt the pain and heal.  We citizens can constantly get to work, become better people, eat healthier, exercise, volunteer, better our minds and our city.  We can work on supporting the local economy, investing, building wealth here, I spent every other evening in a bar, sipping on soda water and watching televisions; now I can move on and spend my time doing other things, better things.

My heart goes out to the players, who must suffer this defeat harder than any of the fans.  I hope that they realize and understand that the majority of us, the fans, still love them and that we will not abandon them.  They have to know that we’re still behind them, and that we’re looking forward to next year.